Coach Ignores My Kid – What Should I Do?
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"My concern is that my child is constantly ignored by the coaches, he can ask a question and they either do not acknowledge him or they tell him to shut up... He has 2 other kids on the team (one is a co-captain) who call him names and just cause tension on the field. I’m not really sure what to do at this point.... he wants to play soccer in college and his head coach last year said that’s a definite possibility, but this coach is no longer coaching due to health issues..... any advice would be appreciated.”
PCA Response By Joe Terrasi, PCA Lead Trainer
This is a challenging question. Before offering specific suggestions, it may be helpful to think of it reframed: A close coworker asks you for advice. While he is well-liked at the office, his boss seems to have taken a dislike to him, ignores his input, and seems to pass him over for interesting assignments and advancement. What advice do you give?
Most of us have faced disagreements with our professional superiors. Let’s face it, most of us have experienced bosses who were poor leaders or who created a toxic culture. Even as a seasoned professional, it can be very difficult to approach difficult authority figures with respect and honesty. While it won’t be easy, you have an opportunity to teach your son a challenging skill he will almost surely need down the road.
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